Parenting Gold # 1

Toolbox Tuesday: Raising fab first borns, kids' social scripts and an independence-building parenting audit. Now that's shareable parenting gold!

I know you can’t read every Parenting Toolbox. You’re a parent. Life’s gets busy. It’s the nature of your life right now.

So over the next few weeks I’m sharing the most popular Parenting Toolbox posts of the last twelve months.

It’s time for a catch up…….. or a refresher!

So grab a cup or glass of your favourite refreshment.

Sit back.

Relax.

Read on.

And enjoy!

There’s so much to know about eldest kids, the most populous cohort on the planet.

Did you know that first borns are likely to be more introverted than any other birth order cohort. They’re also more serious, perfectionistic and anxious than other kids.

And not family first borns are eldest children. Some second borns are given eldest child privileges and expectations so they develop traits of eldest kids. It’s complex, but endlessly fascinating.

Read on to see how your first born child rates on the birth order stakes. Check out how you shape up as well.

Ten facts about first borns that every parent should know

We’ve all felt the need as parents to help our kids out when they are stuck in social situations; or when they should have said No to peer pressure but they couldn’t find the words to use. The solution is to give our kids the words they can use in a variety of situations. It’s called social scripting and it’s so helpful particularly for introverts, or those that shoot off at the mouth without thinking.

Social scripting achieves the parenting trifecta of keeping kids safe, social and building their independence.

Giving kids social scripts for when you’re not around

If you don’t want you kids living in the spare room when they’re forty then take this audit now. It could save your sanity as well as your bank account.

On a more serious parenting note, the development of independence, also known as agency, is linked to many positive factors for kids including the Big 3 - academic achievement, social success and resilience.

Take our independence-building audit to see how your parenting shapes up.

Here’s your independence-building audit

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